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“Hold Off, Is It A Romantic m4m dating”
the podcast about queer relationship there is a constant understood you usually required, organized by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast came into this world out-of Drew and that I’s common love of voice memos and deep talks about online dating. We have been delivering one another vocals memos for only over annually today, going deep about situations Drew loves about dating (individuals! fun! flirting!) therefore the things I dislike about online dating (individuals! Fun! Flirting!). We were having a lot of enjoyment, thoughtful, and insightful conversations and honestly, it seemed rude to rob the more community of those!

Think about us since your friendly neighbor hood co-hosts, directing you through super specific queer matchmaking conundrums because actually, right dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how can you flirt via IG tales? How do you take long, slow flirting to a higher level? Precisely what does it suggest to believe people are into you? We’ll talk with several of Autostraddle’s finest writers, play some super certain video games, document on our pop music culture crushes of the moment and of course, just be sure to answer the eternal concern in our occasions:

Wait…is this a night out together???

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. And this is

Wait, Is It a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast which specialized in the question, “hold off, so is this a date?”

Drew:

I’m very excited to find out.

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Christina:

Yeah. In my opinion we have been on a quest to discover what are dates and what are not times, as buddies, also as a people, In my opinion.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Meaning, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we inform those queers and lesbians exactly what all of our entire indealment is actually, like what we should’re to contained in this moment?

Drew:

Like who we are?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I can get initial. I’m called Drew Gregory. I’m a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, website. I do many film and TV criticism, and gender and online dating writing, and personal essays, and items that merge all of those things. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and I feel i ought to add a third thing because things are in threes. What else? What else?

Christina:

Things do go on threes. You may have great locks.

Drew:

Oh, thanks.

Christina:

You may have wonderful tresses, i believe that’s important.

Drew:

Those are my identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic hair.

Christina:

Those tend to be your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I’ve usually said that you may be a female of hair knowledge. I usually asserted that about you.

Drew:

Yeah. It’s really essential.

Christina:

Yeah. I’m Christina Tucker. I will be also a writer at Autostraddle, whenever you can believe it, who produces about… oh, let’s just say whatever pops into their heads. Which is truly the ambiance. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Dark. I’m not sure which more i’m.

Drew:

You will also have fantastic tresses.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, after all, In my opinion this is certainly possibly a podcast of hair experience. Maybe that needs to be the tagline, “a podcast of hair experience.” I assume individuals are probably wondering how we reached this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every great thing in life — and by that What i’m saying is, very, very few — it began as a highdea, as something we delivered you in a voice memo, high. And returning further than that, we started delivering voice memos to one another at the start of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I’m merely likely to tell you such as the emotions that We have, and after that you can go after that and answer myself, not reply to me, whatever. I’m similar to, this will be me being immediate and obvious. Okay. I’m someone who… I like referring to dating. It really is certainly one of my primary subjects of talk. I have today mentioned my personal piece.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Many thanks for stating your own part. Additionally, six moments and 54 seconds. Honestly, instead remarkable for you to get that in that period of time. We never really think about online dating. I think, possibly, an opposite sense of you and your want to think about internet dating and mention online dating and, like, end up being internet dating. I think those are my thoughts. Well, I’m giving a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length voice memo today. I will send this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I understand that you don’t consider internet dating, certainly not everything myself, maybe significantly less than other people I’m sure?

Christina, in a voice memo:

In my opinion about online dating significantly less than nearly anybody In addition understand. I’m not sure. We frankly do not know if I’ve met anyone who doesn’t consider online dating as far as I would or as much as I don’t, i assume.

Drew:

We failed to actually know one another. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but also for those that simply don’t understand, Autostraddle is actually an online office space. It’s more of a Slack circumstance than a, all of us appear to like lesbian headquarters as well as briefcases. That is not really the ambiance. We failed to really know both. After which, the beginning of pandemic, there seemed to be some DM sliding and a few friendship building several sound memoing. And then we would always joke that it was like we had a podcast because we might send these very long sound memos. After which whenever I had been stoned, I was similar, “We really should.” And here we’re.

Christina:

Yeah. I realize that which you mean by high a few ideas not always becoming the number one ideas, but i really do have a very clear remembrance of hearing you say that being like, “Yeah, without a doubt we ought to have a podcast. We’re carrying out for every various other. Why not invite others into it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Generally my high some ideas tend to be things like, “Oh my personal God, there should be a TV show called

Get A Hold Of Your Star Twin,

in which you take a hollywood right after which they satisfy a person that — like a haphazard individual who has their very same birth data. Which also, is regarded as my personal large tips that i believe might possibly be great. It’s like…

Christina:

Yeah, first of all, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.

Drew:

That’s a free one. I don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it isn’t really. Drew, I’m obtaining you money, I am about to end up being your money manager for the. Definitely not.

Drew:

I just want to see these items in the field. Fundamentally, this really is a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. And another of the reasons precisely why truly that topic, instead of any number of other things Christina and I also speak about, is mainly because I love matchmaking and Christina doesn’t love matchmaking which is a great small.

Christina:

A reduced amount of a fan.

Drew:

And dispute is really… That’s where drama takes place. I believe Socrates asserted that.

Christina:

Definitely.

Drew:

So in retrospect that is the topic. We are going to protect all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We are going to talk about the best queer dating conundrums, online dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from future event:

Correct myself if I’m wrong, but In my opinion Instagram is the best queer matchmaking software.

Shelli, in sound clip from future occurrence:

1000 per cent. It is the most readily useful.

Christina, in sound clip from potential episode:

I’ve heard this off their queers.

Shelli, in audio clip from future episode:

Definitely. It offers you actually everything required, unless another person’s private. But even though you’re private, infant, I’ll discover all about you, some kind of way.

Drew, in audio clip from potential event:

We’re going to explore the greatest gender we have now had.

Dani, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Right after which I finally asked like, “No, did you go beyond here for sex? Are we probably have sex?” In addition they had been like, “Yeah, that is what I wanted.” Also it ended up being like, the cat plus the puppy had been from inside the room and there had been cat and dog tresses everywhere. And that I ended up being like, seriously having an allergic effect while we happened to be having sexual intercourse. The orgasm had been, like, chef’s hug. It actually was the most wonderful knowledge.

Drew, in sound video from potential event:

Wow.

Christina, in audio clip from potential event:

I ask yourself if it’s anything concerning hives that basically included. Like a little ‘jenesequa’ compared to that orgasm encounter. It absolutely was like, “Ooh, I’m a tiny bit itchy in addition.” We ask yourself exactly how much that factors. We are speaking about tips break up with individuals.

Ro, in sound video from potential event:

It feels as though a really right lifestyle thing, also.

Christina, in audio clip from future occurrence:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio clip from future occurrence:

About if you ask me, i’m like… My personal direct friends are the ones who will be prone to say, “Well, fuck that person. That individual sucks,” basically finish a relationship with someone. While, queer folks in my life are the ones who will be more prone to maintain relationships with exes or at least see our exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Anything you could think of in an internet dating podcast, and that I’m perhaps not planning sit for you people, in addition much more. Above you could previously consider.

Drew, in audio clip from future occurrence:

When you’re sexting via book, can it be like what you would like all of them… have you been undertaking role-plays of a situation, like “you’re coming in contact with myself now” or “I wish you were touching,” exactly what tight are we in?

Kayla, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

Yeah, I happened to be likely to ask exactly the same concern, really, for the reason that it’s a thing that’s always fascinating to me, especially just because we are all writers, also.

Christina, in audio clip from potential occurrence:

I happened to be gonna say, several article writers like, “What tense tend to be we working?”

Kayla, in sound video from potential occurrence:

Point of view.

Christina, in sound video from potential episode:

It’s a close third, what exactly is going on right here?

Kayla, in audio clip from potential episode:

Like, purely 2nd?

Drew:

Here’s the one thing about queer individuals. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. Thanks for visiting your TED Chat. Let us go off.

Drew:

There is plenty encounters and tend to be a lot more fascinating. Only whenever I consider the method in which straight individuals discuss dating, it really is very dull. And I think-so often, queer matchmaking talks are extensions associated with main-stream dating discussion, but including things like “being released” and “first-time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” It is like — absolutely much more nuance in so much more… It is therefore interesting. Just what a global that it is, queer intercourse and queer dating.

Christina:

We have taken just like the very traditional type of dull design of heterosexual dating and extremely delivered it into another globe, full of long discussions and processing our very own feelings. Its wonderful work.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m actually excited and I wish you all tend to be thrilled, because the very first occurrence happens each week from now following, there will end up being brand new periods every Wednesday.

Christina:

It has been seven days until such time you’ll notice all of our podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not just get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you will definately get

Wait, Is This A Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And that I co-host both, when you don’t like myself, i suppose you aren’t playing Autostraddle podcasts. And when you are doing just like me, you are welcome.

Christina:

In addition, unless you like Drew, develop, is really what i need to say.

Drew:

I am not for everyone, I am fine with that. In my opinion it should be good to not be for all of us.

Christina:

Sure. I think that is entirely fair. And maybe a subject we’re able to discuss on a single your future symptoms. What happens when you are perhaps not for all of us? I appreciated that I moved like, “Ooh, let us make this all inclusive.” What goes on once you, we, as men and women. You mentioned, why don’t we carry out a complete episode about, “Can you imagine I’m not for all?”

Drew:

Well, it is Leo period and that I’m a Leo soaring and that I felt like that makes it about my self. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. many thanks very much.

Drew:

We’re dual Leo risings on this subject podcast, and that is part of precisely why it’s going to be delicious. Possible pay attention to us wherever you pay attention to the podcast. It will likely be a fairly standard podcast scenario. Absolutely nothing extravagant, no riddles would have to be fixed to get the event, it will likely be immediately for you.

Christina:

Not the employer of you. There’s lots of choices, would what you will.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, available all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And email united states at [email protected]. And you can discover me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal title in our tight.

Christina:

I have considered the social networking addresses often and I also have never, until this second, realized that it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Well that’s the thing, Drew ended up being used and that I don’t know how… Oh, I was internet dating somebody that really… in fact this person which I dated, i did not get alot out of that commitment, except we mentioned this notion and she believed it actually was thus amusing, like too funny, really, like area of the problem, i do believe possibly. And I also ended up being encouraged to get it done, right after which it’s just caught.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Sometimes people think I’m an aesthetic artist while know very well what, I love to be thought of that way, but i can not, Really don’t obviously have drawing skills.

Christina:

I am going to say you’ll find nothing more about brand name for Drew than becoming love, “Oh, which is your own Twitter handle.” And you also becoming similar, “Actually, its a funny tale about dating.”

Drew:

Indeed, precisely.

Christina:

Best.

Drew:

Just what are your own personal handles, and are they connected with your passionate life?

Christina:

Just, no. There is myself at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the internet site. And when you intend to find me personally on Instagram, you are able to do therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it’s truly fearless of us to understand my own Instagram handle.

Drew:

Incredible work.

Christina:

Cheers so much.

Drew:

It certainly is a delight to talk to both you and I’m thus thrilled to jump into most of these exciting subjects. And our very own audience to access know united states a little bit better and get to… i believe we are able to all, In my opinion we are all attending learn with this quest.

Christina:

I am hoping very. I subscribed to discovering.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a school span of podcasts. That managed to make it seem like an outright bummer. Thus sorry.

Drew:

I don’t know. I’d some really great college classes.

Christina:

Clearly, I did as well, but I don’t want to make anyone—

Drew:

Can you picture how remarkable it would be should you turned up your university course and either folks was your own professor, or we educated a course together, that’d function as the hottest thing ever. People would be like…

Christina:

Preferred solution around. Enrollment is from the information.

Drew:

Oh, we must have an episode that is specialized in hot teachers. That is not appropriate.

Christina:

That is not perhaps not pertinent. I’ll claim that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I believe like there could be — you should make it a tiny bit broader, but who knows? You never know what will maintain the future, that is certainly truly interesting. While know who will understand? You, listener, as soon as you tune in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You stay tuned and also you crucially hit that old subscribe key and you will go out with our team every Wednesday and get yourself, “what exactly is a night out together?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers myself to… I don’t know. I became just thinking… had been this a night out together?

Christina:

Drew, no. This can be a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe I’m getting the hang from it therefore understand what’s great, usually because I inquired, today i understand, and now in direct communication is really just what it’s about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

Plus one that a lot of people in the society could find out. And then we’re going to, ideally, this is actually something. This will be less of a podcast plus of a political act.

Christina:

Wow. I becamen’t aware of that, but i am delighted to know that we’re having both a podcast and a political act. A couple of the best situations. A couple of the best items to start out with P, podcasts and political acts.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I think my instinct is if i love you and I also want them in my own existence, I’m sure the most effective way for me personally to ensure that they’re in my every day life is to ensure they are a buddy.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I am only very happy that people’ve come to be these types of close friends. Of course, if off quarantine, that is what occurred, I made this phenomenal brand-new buddy, whom I adore dearly and that I’m merely pleased to speak with you always, like exactly what a present.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I’d a thought plus it moved away. It was honestly most likely actually brilliant.